Faith For Fertility – Part 4 (Conclusion)

Apologies for the delay in putting up this post. I am currently moving and my internet service was disconnected earlier than anticipated.

This is the final part of the testimony. I have already received some questions and I would have a post solely dedicated to answering those questions up very soon. In the meantime, if you still have any questions about anything you have read please send me an email (foodie@mogeeathome.com)

The conclusion….

I hadn’t really been praying much about having children. I was just enjoying my time with God and the new things I had been learning. I had learnt so much about faith in just the first five chapters of Kenneth Hagin’s book, I decided to pray about our children and ask God again to bless my husband and I with the gift of children. I knew there was something different about my asking this time. I knew now that if my prayer wasn’t answered immediately, then there was something God wanted me to change and the Holy Spirit would reveal it to me so that I could make the change(s) required. I wanted my husband and I to pray a prayer of agreement about it, but first, I needed him to come into this new knowledge that I had received so that we were truly ‘agreeing’. I asked him to please read the first two or three chapters of the book before we prayed together. He did. He was amazed at the insight just the first two chapters brought him.

We chose a day, said a short prayer of agreement that we knew it was God’s plan and purpose for us to be parents. He said in His word that none shall be barren in the land and that He would bless the fruit of our womb. We confessed that our children would surround our table and we asked God to bless us with twins, a boy and a girl. We were standing on His word which said that He for our shame, we shall have double. We thanked Him that we were now parents and we thanked Him for answered prayers. It wasn’t a very long prayer.  I knew an action had to follow but I didn’t exactly know what to do so I asked the Holy Spirit to reveal the action required of me. I thought an answer would come instantly but it didn’t.

The next day, I asked the Holy Spirit again, that He should lead me in the action to take. Sometime during the day, I don’t remember what I was doing but it just dropped in my spirit that I should start making a baby list and that I should go and buy the outfit our babies would wear home from the hospital. Remember that I said a few months ago I had gone to buy some baby clothes, the clothes were for 3 month old babies. This time, I knew exactly what God wanted me to do, get new born clothes. When we had prayed, we had asked God for twins, a boy and a girl. I called and told my husband. As soon as my husband got home from work, we went to get the outfits and we prayed over them. I lay them on the bed in the guest room because I wanted to see them every day. I also started my baby list that day. We had asked for twins so I doubled all the items on the list…2 cribs, 2 car seats, a double buggie, etc.

All this happened around end of January/ early February and while it was all going on, we were also seeing our IVF specialist. We had decided to do a final Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) before leaving for Nigeria in June. The transfer was scheduled for March. I continued thanking God for what he had done. I was secretly also praying that we would conceive naturally and I would not have to do the transfer. Well, that didn’t happen and once my period came, I called the clinic and was put on the medication required for the FET.  About a week before the transfer, I started spotting. Three days later, I had an appointment, my doctor was not around so I mentioned to the nurse that I was spotting. She said it was nothing to worry about; that it was as a result of some fibroids I had. I had assumed she would mention it to the doctor or write it in my file but she didn’t. Two days to my transfer, I went for another appointment and this time, I was seen by my doctor. Upon examination, he noticed that I was spotting. He asked how long it had been going for and I told him I had mentioned it to the nurse but she said it was nothing. He immediately cancelled my FET cycle and said there was no way they could do the transfer if I was spotting. I had to wait again till my next period.

Yes, this is it! God wants us to conceive naturally. Normally, I think I might have been a bit upset or just irritated by the incompetency on the nurse’s part but I was actually excited. I was just like, God, whichever way you want it but I was definitely rooting for the natural way. End of March, my period came and oh well, I had to start taking the medication for another FET cycle.

The transfer was scheduled for the 6^th of April. I remember that day so well. My husband was driving me to the hospital and we were listening to the radio in the car. It was on a Christian radio station (KSBJ in Houston) and there was a Hillsong United song playing. I can’t remember which exact one but I know we were singing along. When we got to the hospital, before I was taken into the procedure room, my doctor came out and asked me if there was any song I wanted them to play. Huhhhh!!! This was my seventh time undergoing this kind of procedure and my third with this particular doctor and never had I been asked what song I wanted played. I told him he probably won’t have the song because it was a Christian song. He was like, “oh don’t worry, I have Pandora so I can get any song you want”. My face lit up but as I could not remember the exact song my husband and I were listening to that morning, I just told him any Hillsong United song would do. I should have known God was setting up the atmosphere of worship in that procedure room.

The procedure went well, even the nurses were moving along to the songs and there was just this Peace in the room. It was different. I went home and was put on bed rest for three days. I had determined that nothing was going to take God’s Glory this time. I knew we were pregnant and I was not going to ascribe glory to anything I did differently. So I did not do any of the usually things I would have done. No pineapple core eating, no unnecessary medication or vitamin taking, no not taking a shower (I took a shower everyday), I just eliminated all the things I thought I could have ascribed glory to. During the two week wait, I went about things as normal. Thanked God everyday for our children and prayed for them (I used Luke 1:14-17 as reference). I did not exhibit any of the symptoms. I looked for them all…heavy boobs, spotting from implantation, nausea, frequent urination (anyone that knows me knows I already have this, lol J) so it definitely wasn’t a symptom. I had nothing and this could have been discouraging because during all my other cycles, I had nothing as well. But do you know what, ‘I considered them not’, and every day I just stood on God’s word and believed that we were pregnant. Not just pregnant, pregnant with our twins!

April 20^th couldn’t have come any sooner. It was time to get blood work done to find out if we were pregnant.  I had planned that upon getting the result sometime that afternoon, I would have an hour of praise whether the result was positive or negative. I went to the clinic and they said they would give me a call later that afternoon with the result. As I was driving home, I remembered that I had always dreamt of telling my husband we were pregnant with a card. So I headed to a grocery store and got two cards. One of them read ‘It was never a question of if, it was always a matter of when’ and Now is the time. I really liked the card.

I got home and the waiting game began again. The last two times I had done IVF cycles, they had called me around 2pm. So I was expecting the call to come around that time. I decided to wait till after the call to address the cards. And well, if it was negative, I wouldn’t have to address the card and he would never know. I slept off and woke up around 3pm, checked my cellphone, there was no call from the clinic! The Holy Spirit suggested I should begin praising God for what He has done. The one hour praise was supposed to come after I had received the result but you know what, Praise precedes the Blessing. So I started praising and dancing in my room. I knew we were pregnant. As soon as I finished my praise session, I immediately went to address the cards I had bought for my husband. I set it out on the table and put a chocolate bar on it. I was looking forward to him coming home.

It was a somewhat unusual day because, typically, my husband and I would have spoken often on the phone but he hadn’t called me since about 2pm that day and I also hadn’t called him. Now I know he was a bag of nerves, not knowing what to expect and not wanting to put any pressure on me. He got home at about 5:30pm and the first thing he said was “ah, you didn’t call me”. I told him I was sorry but I hadn’t yet received any call from the hospital. He suggested I call them. The nurses at the clinic hardly ever pick up their calls, they always give you a call back after listening to your message so I wasn’t even interested in that option. To lighten the mood, I excitedly gave him the cards. He read them, smiled and gave me a big hug. He said ‘yes, we are pregnant, thank God.’ As soon as he said that, my phone rang. It was my doctor. This is how the conversation went

Doctor: “Oh Moji, sorry I am just getting round to calling but your numbers look good”

Me: “Err, ok, what does that mean?”

Doctor: “Oh, you are pregnant. You didn’t know?”

Me (screaming calmly): “Thank God. We are pregnant. I didn’t check”

Doctor: “Seriously, most people leave here and get one of those home pregnancy kits to find out immediately. I am sorry; it must have been a long wait for you then. Well the numbers look very good.  We will see you again in two days.”

I looked at my husband, we hugged tightly and began thanking God. We are pregnant! God did it and HE made it so simple. God you love us so much that you taught us what we needed to do.

So there you have it. This is my story, that God loves me so much that He took time to make sure I understood some fundamental principles I would need for the rest of my life before He answered my request. All the while not giving me more than I was able to handle. All the while making His Grace abundant for me. All the while making His word so simple. All the while ensuring the Holy Spirit was there to help me with anything I was unsure or confused about. God did it! He gave double for my shame, just like I asked Him. Ever Faithful God!

In my next post, I would answer questions I have received. I would also talk about the threats and challenges faced after we found out we were pregnant. There may be a slight delay in putting up the next post as we are currently relocating so please just be patient with me. I would have it up as soon as I can.

Faith For Fertility – Part 1

Faith For Fertility – Part 2

Faith For Fertility – Part 3